Introduction

Becoming a strong, confident person is something that so many want in life. However, the path to greatness is difficult and many find themselves stuck before they’ve even begun. Perhaps you want to inspire the people around you and form a tribe of capable peers. Perhaps you want respect and adoration. Are these things that you have in life or are you unhappy with the way things are? Chances are, you’re unhappy, just like so many young people in this day and age. That’s why this information is so important. It will teach you how to become exactly what you want to become without any silly strings attached. So many people in the world don’t want you to rise up. This is going to be because your growth challenges their sense of stability or pride. There are jealous peers around you who don’t want to see you grow because it will hurt their pride that someone is doing what they cannot. These people will always exist in life but I’m going to give you four simple tips to help you surpass them all.

1. Confidence

Confidence is absolutely essential. Confident people get opportunities. Confident men get girls. You’ll probably find that there are many “supplements” that can help you grow your confidence. For example, good style, attractiveness, and an aesthetic body. However, while these can take your game from a C to an A+, true confidence and manliness comes from within. Let’s call it “unbothered energy.” This is the belief that no matter what you do, things are going to turn out okay. This applies even if the process is rough or if you feel horrible. When it comes to opportunities in life, regret is worse than rejection. Go ahead and do everything you feel like doing. If there’s a pretty or handsome person that you’ve noticed, talk to them. Walk up. Compliment them. It doesn’t matter if they thinks you’re a creep, are in a relationship, or just walk away. You were a zero to them to begin with. In fact, I will respect you more for having the guts to carry out your instinct. Talking about this is good in theory, however the fear that you get in the moment before any challenge feels like an almost insurmountable difficulty. If you ever find yourself in this situation, countdown from 5. You must act before 5 seconds once you have any impulse. Otherwise your mind will stop you and nothing will get accomplished. You might be trying to find advice about how to change yourself into an everybody man. Ultimately though, you will realize that there are people who will dislike you if you’re bad, and envy you if you’re good. There is no pleasing these people, but what you can do is grow yourself and self-improve. That is going to allow you to become the peak version of you and that is what is going to make you feel good about yourself. 

2. Contribution to the Group

The second step of becoming a confident person is always bringing your worth to the table. Confident people are respected and followed for a reason. When you have value and self-worth, this will elevate your status in any group. This is why con-artists can rise simply because people think they have value. The entire careers of celebrities rely on the masses believing they have value. Most of the time their audience has a reason to have faith. Famous actors have incredible skill in acting. Bruce Lee was a martial arts master. Famous musicians create really good music. You are going to have to bring something of value to a group. Some are good at talking and building connections with others. Others are physically capable and spend lots of time improving themselves at the gym. Attractive people tend to be welcomed in most groups. The reason why groups of degenerates can form when no one is bringing any real value is because they are bringing something else. Complacency. A degenerate will feel better about their degeneracy when they are surrounded with people just like them. Smokers. Drunks. Addicts. People who are overly obsessed with eating and even gaming have their own communities. This is the reason why these communities form. This is also why it is so important for confident people to bring good value to a good community. 

3. Self-Worth

The third step to becoming a confident person is taking it slow and maintaining your value. Being the first to react or jump at every noise doesn’t command respect in the eyes of others. That is the behavior of a follower. If you’re right there, all the time, you’re suggesting that your time isn’t worth anything and that there isn’t anything important that you were doing. Everything a confident person does is important. Each breath and glance is important. Don’t waste your energy on others. If a conversation is not benefiting you, walk away. It shows you have the strength to do so. This is the opposite of simp behavior. A simp is always nice to others with the belief that they will return the affection. Life is not so kind. The moment your time and attention feels cheap it becomes like a worthless currency to others. So many “nice guys” fall into this trap and get punished for it. Don’t be a “nice guy”. Moderate yourself and give others as much attention as they give you. 

4. Decisiveness

If you are a confident person, you don’t take back your statements or apologize needlessly to appease others. Every action and every movement you make should be completed. Hesitation is a sign that you don’t have confidence. If you are walking in a direction and you know there is a place you need to go, walk with pride and don’t feel pressured to accommodate others. If you are speaking and someone else starts talking, complete your sentence. No matter what. Do not change your tone, speak louder, or even quicken your pace. Proceed as if no one is talking over you. If you allow others to speak over you then no one will bother to listen to whatever you have to say. Obviously, if you aren’t sticking to your own words then it can’t have been important. You’ve probably been raised to be polite and respectful to your peers. Because of this you let others walk first, text first, and speak first. But others won’t always be polite and respectful to you. They will cut in front of you, text before listening, and speak over you. Over time, you will accept it as the new normal but will always feel squashed and uncomfortable when someone else talks before you. Is that how you truly want to spend your life? Of course not. Every action has an effect. How can you possibly create any effect in life and in others if you don’t complete your actions? Act with decisiveness and confidence.

Conclusion

Now if you’ve read the entire thing and stuck around this entire time, congratulations. I appreciate your desire to grow. Hone that desire. If you want to be a strong, confident person, become one. Stay strong. 2023 will be our year.

Brandon Shin

Leader | Self-Improvement Group